Matters Of Life And Death

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• My Rebirthday

  Posted at 3:18 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on July 17, 2022

  

  My daughter was born at 9:27 am EST on July 17, 2000.

  I died at 9:18 am EST on July 17, 2000.

  At 9:26 am EST on July 17, 2000, I was reborn.

  Today marks the 22nd anniversary of my death and rebirth, and my daughter’s 22nd birthday.

  If it were not for my daughter, I wouldn’t get to be her mother. If it were not for my daughter, I wouldn’t be who I am today.

  Having the gift of death and coming back to this life has been both the greatest blessing and the most challenging thing in the world. I have had to navigate a world that seemed foreign to me at first, I was so different than before but the world hadn’t changed. What I took for granted as “normal” no longer made sense and I longed for something new. I initially thought that by changing my outward life it would bring me closer to what I longed for in my heart. What I longed for was to live in a state of being where Love was the predominant energy. I wanted to be in that same state of being I was in during my NDE.

  The sticking point for many years was how to “get” there. How do I “be” that Love?

  I needed a road map, a blueprint for living and I finally realized I was the only one who could design it. No church, no “guru”, no thing outside of me could do it for me, could show me the way. So, I started meditating. It was the next right thing for me to do. From there, my answers as to the “how” began to arrive. The inspiration to write, to read, to slowly navigate a path back to myself became clearer and clearer.

  Writing I Died And Learned How To Live was so cathartic for me. It gave me me back. It gave me a way to break through the barrier of fear I’d inadvertently built up around me to protect me from the judgement and criticism of others. It helped me strengthen in more Love and diminish the influence Ego had over me.

  My days are not always carefree, but when I do struggle I have a way to bring myself back to what I know from experience to be the most healing, nurturing, peaceful state of being, which is Love. I return there over and over again.

  Happy Rebirthday to me!

  Love to you all!

  Krista xox
  Posted in Uncategorized | 4 Comments | Tagged afterlife, awareness, birthday, death, fear, God, law of attraction, life, love, nde, near death experience, rebirthday, spirituality

• Managing Fear

  Posted at 7:37 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on July 31, 2020

  Let’s take a look at one scenario. Come up with a specific fear you have. Feel it through, in your body. Notice how your body feels when your mind imagines this hypothetical situation. Does your stomach turn or have butterflies? Does your breathing become a bit faster? Do you feel blood rushing to your head? Does it feel good or not so good?

  What is fear? Let’s unpackage it a bit….

  Fear is not just one thing. Fear is a constellation of multiple dynamic energies all working at once. Some work together, some seemingly alone, but all end up influencing the outcome.

  When we are in a state of fear, not only is our body responding physiologically to the hormones being released in a fight-or-flight response to the autonomic nervous system stimulation from our interpretation of the thoughts we are having in that moment, but once the physiologic response happens it sort of loops back in a type of reflex for more thoughts on the same subject. We almost get carried away on the wings of the thoughts. We loose control.

  How do we get some of that control back? Through focusing our attention on what we want to be rather than what we don’t want to be, i.e. whatever our fear is, we imagine the opposite. Use that creative mind power to envision something better.

  Talk yourself down from it. Remind yourself that you are a powerful creator and can create or uncreate anything you choose to place your focus on. Don’t chastise yourself or be mean to yourself if you have to keep doing it because it will get easier and easier as you go along. It takes a dedication of your energy to continually go back and refocus, but the outcome is so worth it! The outcome of a better feeling, even for just a few moments. The outcome of what you desire to happen rather than what you don’t desire to happen, or maybe something close to it. Try it. You’ll see.

  Tell yourself that all is well, that everything is working out for you and everyone involved. That it’s working out even when others observe it and say the opposite. You can believe differently.

  Write affirmations about whatever subject you are fearful about and put them in your pocket. Pull them out and remind yourself of how powerful you are at creating what you desire to experience rather than what you don’t desire. I put them on my bathroom mirror, in my car, on the fridge, in my scrub pocket. Anywhere you are inspired to where you know you’ll see them and be re-minded of what you desire. This helps so much to refocus the mind and bodies’ energy on what we want.

  If the fear creeps back in, repeat all of the above. Over and over. Until you no longer require it. Have faith until you have experience, then there is no need for faith.

  Much Love!! xoxo
  Posted in acceptance, allowing, appreciation, covid-19, Divinity, forgiveness, heaven, how to handle problems, how to live in the world, how to live in this world, inspiration, instructions for living, kids, kids go to college, law of attraction, life, love, loving, loving ourselves, meditation, miracles, near death, near death experience, oprah winfrey, physician assistant, relationships, self help, self love, transitioning, twelve principles, Uncategorized, understanding ourselves, universal love, Wayne Dyer, worthiness | 0 Comments | Tagged courage, creating your life, encouragement, fear, fear of dying, fear of living

• Turn Fear Inside-Out

  Posted at 10:20 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on February 25, 2015

  Fear can be really motivating and really stagnating.

  Why?

  Why does it have to exist at all?  Sure, there’s the life-perserving type of fight-or-flight kind of fear that ensures the propagation of the species and once we experience it we run like hell, but why does it exist beyond that stage?

  Think about what you’ve experienced in the past where fear motivated you to run…what purpose did it serve?  Self-preservation.  To preserve the “Self”.  But, what is the self?  Ego.  Let me explain…

  When we’re faced with a situation that challenges our present mind-set or belief system, a common thing to do is react to it by becoming defensive.  We want to defend our mind-set or beliefs because the Ego is all about standing its ground and maintaining its position.  What underlies the Ego?  What supports it?  Fear.

  The question we must all ask if we’re to grow into the loving beings we came here to be is this:  What am I afraid of?  Open it up and dissect it, remove all the parts and lay it all out on the table.   Turn it inside-out.

  xoxo

  Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged anxiety, awareness, connection, death, depression, fear, fear of dying, fear of living, how to live life, love, self help, self-care, spirituality

• Flippin’ Fear

  Posted at 4:18 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on December 30, 2014

  When we take what it is we fear, flip it around and look at it in a beneficial way, we create a whole new life for ourselves.

  Happy New Year!  Happy Old Fear!!

   

  xoxo

  Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged anxiety, courage, depression, fear, happy new year, how to live life, joy, love, power, strength, what are you afraid of

• Frozen

  Posted at 9:48 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on October 13, 2014

  I’m stuck.

  Frozen.

  There are ten important things I need to do and I’m not doing any of them.  The thing is, I totally know why.  It’s because I’m fearful about something.

  When my spirit, my inspiration, my soul wants to express itself out in the world and the one I call “I” that is my ego gets in the way and blocks my expression, I stop dead in my tracks.

  The blockage creates stagnation and the feeling of “stuckness”.  It’s an icky feeling.  At the same time, a necessary one.

  Without it I wouldn’t recognize its opposite, which are the feelings of motivation and inspiration, ones that I wish to experience to their fullest, and lie beyond the sticky frozen stuckness that I presently feel.

  So, as Elsa sings, I need to “Let it go, let it go!”

  The ice is melting…..I can already feel it!

  xoxo

  Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged disney, drive, fear, frozen, inspiration, motivation, olaf, snow, spirit, stagnation

• Loving The People We Meet….

  Posted at 12:10 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on October 2, 2014

  My job is in medicine and I meet a lot of people every day.  I love everyone.  Everyone is deserving of my love, especially those who seem to suffer more than others, like the homeless alcoholic who I later learned had been a Obstetrition at one time, or the distraught young woman who cut her wrist after her boyfriend broke up with her.  My words to her were simple, “You don’t have to live this way, and you know it.”  I could feel her energy shift at that moment.  I cared for a middle-aged obese woman with high blood pressure who obviously wasn’t taking care of herself.  As I left the room, my words to her were “Do what you know you need to do for yourself.  You’re worth it.”  She and her husband’s jaws dropped at that, literally.  I laughed a little, knowing she’d remember it and maybe get back in touch with the love she is.

  I’m not bragging or blowing my own horn, I just believe we need to focus on and talk more about love.  When we do, it carries that love energy outward, all around us.  In the presence of love, there can’t be hate.  No fear.  Just Love.

  Lots of Love to You!

  Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged acceptance, afterlife, alcoholism, awareness, drug addiction, fear, health, life, love, obesity

• Discussion of the Twelve Principles For Daily Living at the International Association of Near Death Studies, August 2014

  Posted at 10:07 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on September 9, 2014

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• Joy vs. Suffering

  Posted at 9:55 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on September 5, 2014

  Life is unpredictable.

  I used to be so uncomfortable with that saying.  I needed a schedule that didn’t change.  I had to function within certain parameters where, if they were breached with an unexpected “whatever”, I would be sent spinning.

  What I never realized was how afraid I was.  I carried a fear of living around with me all the time, yet was completely unaware of the extent to which it affected my life.  I figured it was something that was a part of life.  Most of us are afraid.  That’s just how it is.  That’s why we get life insurance.  That’s why we save for retirement.  That’s why we go to the doctor and take the pills we take.

  We’re afraid of living. We’re afraid of dying.

  But, why?  Why do we see this life as something to be feared? Why do we see death as something to be feared?

  Why do we approach life, the most natural thing in the world, as if it is something to be endured, suffered through and ultimately end through this horrible thing called death?

  I didn’t get it.

  Then, I died.  

  Then, I got it.

  We come here with the experience of who we are in our most fundamental state of being, which is pure, conscious love, and with that, all the joy that comes with it.

  When we come into the body, we have the experience of the suffering that occurs when we are separated from the source of who we really are. We’re in the body so we may once again endeavor to experience the joy of who we are. When we do so, we are able to understand the difference between suffering and joy, and when we live to experience only joy, we cease to suffer. We’ve returned.

  Love to you 🙂

   

  Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged anxiety, death, depression, fear, God, hope, how to live, joy, life, living, love, self help, spirituality, suffering

• Ego = Discourse + Disease

  Posted at 2:04 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on July 12, 2014

  Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged awareness, disease, ego, fear, friendship, hate, health, kindness, love, religion, spirituality

• The Law of Attraction Works!

  Posted at 9:24 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on June 17, 2014

  I can speak to this point for days and give countless examples about how it’s helped me to manifest my own desires, but what I’d like to do is share a story about a friend who had the experience of the LOA working in her life.

  Katie is in LA temporarily with her daughters who have a lot of activities in and around the city.  She’s driving them here and there constantly, and finds herself stuck in traffic all the time.

  Just before she left we had a discussion about the LOA and how it can help improve one’s life.  She said she’d give it a try, and I heard from her today that it’s worked several times already!  She manifested a smooth, traffic-free trip twice, and both times there was little traffic when normally there would be quite a bit. 

  This is a small example of the power of our intentions and the will of the Universe to work with us along our life’s journey 🙂

  Love this stuff!!  xoxo

  Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged fear, happiness, joy, LA, law of attraction, life's journey, los angeles, love, stress, traffic

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