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    • On Being Selfish

      Posted at 11:32 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on March 17, 2019

      “It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.”—E.E. Cummings

      Many of us hide under a veil where we reveal only some of ourselves to the world as we yield the rest to the expectations of others…it takes courage to remove the veil and step out into the world as who we really are. Those of us who choose to remain veiled choose a life that is, ultimately, under-lived.   The veil of ego is what ties us to it.

      For me, ego is the same as resistance, or the building of walls.  Walls can exist anywhere, at any time.  Anything that blocks us from the trueness of who and what we are, is ego.  Ego is a reflection of that trueness, it’s equal and opposite and without one, we wouldn’t know the other.  Ego, therefore, is not to be rejected or eliminated.  It’s absolutely essential for our existence here as it allows us to accomplish what we came here to do, which is to grow into the Love we are in our very essence.  

      We’re all trying to accomplish that, in different ways and to varying degrees.  All of us are on this meandering path to our bliss-state, our state of ideal being, whatever form that may take.  For one person it’s through becoming a teacher, another a gambler, yet another it’s…fill-in-the-blank.  The point is, it doesn’t matter how you get there.  The journey along the way reveals more and more to us about who we are.

      To make the choice NOT to do this or that because of the expectations of others is a choice made from the vantage point of ego.  We tell ourselves it’s for the best that we do not follow our heart, or our bliss (as Joseph Campbell said).  We believe it’s too hard, too risky, etc. The bottom line is, we lack the self-love it requires to step forth into our best life.  The emphasis on self-love (i.e. whether we’re following our bliss) and this is a reflection of the present state of our ego.  Now, ego can be very small, as in having the belief we don’t deserve what we desire.  Ego can be very large, as in believing what we think is the only way to think.  There are varying degrees of ego-presence based on the energies activated within us in any given moment.  When we’re able to examine our emotional state and assess the amount of fear present in our perceptions and thoughts and felt in our physical body, that is equivalent to the amount of ego present and is a great way to gauge where we are in relationship to the amount of Love vibration activated in that moment.

      Joseph Campbell has also said one reaches maturity when they become the initiator of their own life.  This takes courage, intention of love over ego and embedded within that is love of the Self, above all.   Being self-ish is not selfish, in the popular sense of the word.   I highly encourage it!

      Happy St. Patrick’s Day all, may you allow for all the love and good fortune of the universe to shine upon you today.  xox

      Posted in acceptance, appreciation, Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged buddhism, creativity, energy, existence, feelings, health, home, inspiration, life, new age, physics, relationships, religion, science, space, spirit, spirituality, St. Patrick's Day, truth
    • Attachment vs. Detachment

      Posted at 7:53 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on June 11, 2015

      Being an Aquarius, I tend to go back and forth between being really attached and deeply affected by the pain others are going through, to the point where my mental space is constantly occupied by it.  I want to help fix it, to make it better so we all can feel better, but that’s not always the best thing.  So, I detach.  That way I’m less affected.  The polarity of the two can make it seem like I’m “hot” and “cold” when what I’m really trying to do is avoid emotional pain.  This is something I’m just now realizing about my self.

      What led me to realize it?  Emotional pain.  Not on an incredibly deep level, but all-encompassing, if that makes any sense.  My point of reference to my self and the world around me suddenly shifted when something was removed from my life, and I realized how very much attached I’d become to it.  Here’s my dilemma…

      I want to love deeply, to experience all of life and squeeze as much out of each experience as I can..to really feel it, yet I am afraid of being hurt so I hold back emotionally, appearing aloof and uncaring at times.  That’s not how I want to be.  So, how do I change it?

      Love, but don’t attach.  I love everyone.  i really do.  But, I don’t attach my self to them because I feel pain if something happens that my ego doesn’t want to happen.  That’s not really loving detachment then.  Loving and being in love, really being in it, free from fear, is my lesson now.  Ego has to take a back seat for this to happen.  It’s the way I need to live in this world to be happy, joyful and free 🙂  I bless my lessons that led me to this place.  I am grateful for the things that led me here.  I wasn’t able to say that yesterday.

      xoxo

      Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged attachment, buddhism, detachment, happiness, love, relationships
    • Discussion of the Twelve Principles For Daily Living at the International Association of Near Death Studies, August 2014

      Posted at 10:07 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on September 9, 2014

      Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged afterlife, angels, beauty, compassion, connection, consciousness, courage, create your life, creativity, death, Divinity, faith, fear, God, happiness, healing, heaven, human potential, IANDS, inspiration, joy, life, life after near death experience, life's purpose, love, meaning of death, meaning of life, near death experience, Peace, present moment, purpose, reason for being here, relationships, self help, spiritual, spiritual experiences
    • What Inspires You?

      Posted at 9:38 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on June 3, 2014

      I was writing tonight about what/who my inspirations in life have been.  Remembering back to my childhood, it ranged from Winnie the Pooh, Big Bird, and Mary Poppins to Wonder Woman, the Six Million Dollar Man and Charlie’s Angels.  Moving on into my teens it became the hero of whatever book I couldn’t put down, or musician who’s music I’d become infatuated with.

      Then, in early adulthood, it was the work of Joseph Campbell and Deepak Chopra that resonated with me and helped shape who I am today.

      Inspiration is the spark that ignites creativity.  It is our divine beingness that is sparked in the face of inspiration.

      One of the definitions of Inspire is to breathe.  We all share the breath of life.  We all inspire.

      What inspires you?

      xoxo

      Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged abundance, afterlife, consciousness, Divinity, God, inspiration, joseph campbell, Kauai, law of attraction, positive thinking, relationships, spirituality
    • The greatest gi…

      Posted at 7:14 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on May 10, 2014

      The greatest gift a mother gives her family is a commitment to her own self-care.

      ~Cheryl Richardson

      Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged Children, family, home, marriage, mother, relationships, self love, self-esteem, working mother
    • “You can only u…

      Posted at 2:22 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on April 29, 2014

      “You can only understand people if you feel them in yourself.” John Steinbeck

      I read this today and instantly felt an understanding of his wisdom.  Compassion is the palpable, namable experience we have when we participate in the suffering of another through feeling.  Simple phrase by Stienbeck, but with a depth of meaning that transcends.

      Love to you all!

      xox

      Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged compassion, feelings, John Steinbeck, love, near death, relationships, self knowledge
    • Loving What Is

      Posted at 10:58 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on April 17, 2014

      To accept what is happening in the present moment is not about rolling over and being a victim.  It’s about putting our attention on what is in that moment, while intending the next.  Where the intention comes from is what’s important.  When it comes from a space of love, from our true nature, the next moment is allowed to evolve from this, and so goes your life.  It’s a beautiful journey!

      Love to you all!

      Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged friendship, guidance, hope, inspiration, law of attraction, love, near death experience, relationships
    • Relationship Review Required

      Posted at 5:24 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on March 3, 2014

      Whenever something comes up between me and my husband that needs a little attention, I stop and try and take inventory before diving into a long discussion about whatever issue we’re having at the time.  If I don’t do that, I’m apt to say things in a way I don’t mean to, or say things in general that I don’t mean to say.  Mentally reviewing words before they are chosen and spoken, and checking in to see where I’m at energetically (love that word) really helps to minimize conflict in our discussions.  The bottom line is, we can only control how we conduct ourselves in our relationships, and a little attention to detail goes a looong way when trying to communicate how we feel.  The other person picks up on our vibe, and if it’s considerate and loving, positive and pure, that is what our relationship will be all about.

      Love to you this beautiful day!    

       

      Posted in Uncategorized | 0 Comments | Tagged energy, family, healing, law of attraction, love, marriage, partner, positive energy, relationships, significant other
    • How should I live?

      Posted at 10:17 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on December 29, 2013

      This sparked something in me.  I began to consider the connection between Compassion and Empathy.  Compassion is the physical expression of the spiritual connection we all share, and Empathy is born out of this.  Empathy itself is identification with another without being “attached” to it.  There is simply an observation of the other’s present condition, and a caring for them that comes out of it.  Sympathy is generated by an attached identification and caring for another that is ego-generated.  It is the “I want to change things so you do not suffer.” Where Empathy is “I understand and identify with your suffering.”  Therefore, a detached expression of our spiritual connection to all there is brings us good spiritual health, and fosters our life-connections.  In my NDE and in life I have, I did, and do, experience this.  This spiritual knowing allows for me to serve others without getting “burnt out”.  It allows for me to express love without ego getting in the way.

      the Hunt for Truth

      “We have more than five senses, and not everything meets the eye.“

      ~  Roman Krznaric

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      PDF: How Should We Live?
      by Roman Krznaric
      Publisher: Bluebridge
      (December 1, 2013)

      Book Description
      Twelve universal topics including work, love, and family; time, creativity, and empathy are explored in this book by illuminating the past and revealing the wisdom that people have been missing. Looking to history for inspiration can be surprisingly powerful. In How Should We Live?, cultural thinker Roman Krznaric shares ideas and stories from history each of which sheds invaluable light on decisions made every day. There is much to be learned from the ancient Greeks about the different varieties of love, for example, from the Renaissance about living with passion and facing the realities of death, from various indigenous cultures on bringing up our children, and from Japanese pilgrims on the art of travel. History is…

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      Posted in Uncategorized | 2 Comments | Tagged compassion, connections, emotion, empathy, God, Jesus, life after near death experience, love, new age, relationships, religion, spirituality, sympathy
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