Matters Of Life And Death

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Matters Of Life And Death
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    • Baby Steps

      Posted at 10:58 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on February 15, 2022

      In our recent move to the Hawaiian island of Maui, I’ve had some interesting things about myself come to light. Like, I hadn’t realized how much familiar surroundings and routine meant to me. Not that I had a super specific routine in my life before, but what surrounded me was familiar. Things around me had their place and I knew where to find them. My “stuff” was all around me. There was a comfort in just feeling the energy of my home, my neighborhood, my town. All of that has changed.

      Moving 4500 miles away from where I lived for 22 years was more of a challenge than I anticipated. Although I’d chosen it, I’d planned it, I’d hyped it up to my husband, I found myself in moments of fear. I wasn’t completely sure if picking up my life and moving to the middle of the Pacific Ocean was such a great idea. I longed for home and the comforts of it. I wanted to see the same landscape out my window I’d seen every day for so long. I wanted to go to the grocery store and have the people working there nod hello because they knew my face.

      Then, I watched the sunset on our wedding anniversary and a sea turtle swam by. Not only did it swim by, but it lifted its head out of the water and looked straight at us! Another swam directly underneath me two days later. We watched giant waves crash on ancient lava rocks and felt the energy of nature. We stood on a forest path amongst trees that had been there since indigenous Hawaiians lived on the land and it was still theirs.

      I’ve been here 13 days and I’m already transforming. I’m moving toward who I came here to be. I’m becoming more, and I couldn’t be more grateful or more sure that yes, this was the right decision.

      Much Aloha! xox

      Posted in acceptance, allowing, appreciation, covid-19, creativity, decluttering, dimensional travel, Divinity, forgiveness, happy valentine's day, hawaii, heaven, Hero's adventure, how to handle problems, how to live in the world, how to live in this world, inspiration, instructions for living, Island living, kids, kids go to college, law of attraction, life, love, loving, loving ourselves, Maui, meditation, miracles, morgan freeman, Mother's Day, near death, near death experience, oprah winfrey, other dimensions exist, physician assistant, rainbows, relationships, self help, self love, shooting star, Success, thoreau, transitioning, twelve principles, Uncategorized, understanding ourselves, universal love, valentine's day, Wayne Dyer, what I did this weekend, will smith, worthiness | 0 Comments
    • Decluttering

      Posted at 6:31 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on January 2, 2022

      While it has a satisfying, somewhat cleansing appeal, the process of doing it makes me feel just a little bit ill. Granted, we don’t have a lot of material things, as I’ve made a conscious effort over the last 10-15 years to not gather together random bits of insignificant material objects. The process of sorting through what we do have and prioritizing keeping vs giving away is what makes me slightly nauseated.

      That is, if I sit and think about it.

      Stepping back and considering the process from a “feeling” point of view, not one that involves conscious thought but conscious feeling, I am eased into a much better state of vibration where I can focus on what I want. I want to keep things that have meaning to me and bring me joy when I look at them, when I hold them in my hands, when I remember where I got it and the circumstances around acquiring it. I want to cherish the feelings. I want to pass along those few special, memorable, good-feeling-provoking things that will also bring joy and meaning to my daughters.

      It’s never just about me and what I want.

      So, the minute nausea I feel at the idea of tackling the closets today is eased to near nonexistence, simply by reframing my thoughts and adjusting my vibration and focus. Love how life can be so simple!

      Much Love to you today!

      Krista xox

      Posted in acceptance, allowing, appreciation, creativity, decluttering, Divinity, forgiveness, hawaii, heaven, Hero's adventure, how to handle problems, how to live in the world, inspiration, instructions for living, Island living, kids go to college, law of attraction, life, love, loving, loving ourselves, Maui, meditation, miracles, twelve principles | 0 Comments
    • Managing Fear

      Posted at 7:37 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on July 31, 2020

      Let’s take a look at one scenario. Come up with a specific fear you have. Feel it through, in your body. Notice how your body feels when your mind imagines this hypothetical situation. Does your stomach turn or have butterflies? Does your breathing become a bit faster? Do you feel blood rushing to your head? Does it feel good or not so good?

      What is fear? Let’s unpackage it a bit….

      Fear is not just one thing. Fear is a constellation of multiple dynamic energies all working at once. Some work together, some seemingly alone, but all end up influencing the outcome.

      When we are in a state of fear, not only is our body responding physiologically to the hormones being released in a fight-or-flight response to the autonomic nervous system stimulation from our interpretation of the thoughts we are having in that moment, but once the physiologic response happens it sort of loops back in a type of reflex for more thoughts on the same subject. We almost get carried away on the wings of the thoughts. We loose control.

      How do we get some of that control back? Through focusing our attention on what we want to be rather than what we don’t want to be, i.e. whatever our fear is, we imagine the opposite. Use that creative mind power to envision something better.

      Talk yourself down from it. Remind yourself that you are a powerful creator and can create or uncreate anything you choose to place your focus on. Don’t chastise yourself or be mean to yourself if you have to keep doing it because it will get easier and easier as you go along. It takes a dedication of your energy to continually go back and refocus, but the outcome is so worth it! The outcome of a better feeling, even for just a few moments. The outcome of what you desire to happen rather than what you don’t desire to happen, or maybe something close to it. Try it. You’ll see.

      Tell yourself that all is well, that everything is working out for you and everyone involved. That it’s working out even when others observe it and say the opposite. You can believe differently.

      Write affirmations about whatever subject you are fearful about and put them in your pocket. Pull them out and remind yourself of how powerful you are at creating what you desire to experience rather than what you don’t desire. I put them on my bathroom mirror, in my car, on the fridge, in my scrub pocket. Anywhere you are inspired to where you know you’ll see them and be re-minded of what you desire. This helps so much to refocus the mind and bodies’ energy on what we want.

      If the fear creeps back in, repeat all of the above. Over and over. Until you no longer require it. Have faith until you have experience, then there is no need for faith.

      Much Love!! xoxo

      Posted in acceptance, allowing, appreciation, covid-19, Divinity, forgiveness, heaven, how to handle problems, how to live in the world, how to live in this world, inspiration, instructions for living, kids, kids go to college, law of attraction, life, love, loving, loving ourselves, meditation, miracles, near death, near death experience, oprah winfrey, physician assistant, relationships, self help, self love, transitioning, twelve principles, Uncategorized, understanding ourselves, universal love, Wayne Dyer, worthiness | 0 Comments | Tagged courage, creating your life, encouragement, fear, fear of dying, fear of living
    • Appreciate the mess

      Posted at 9:33 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on August 26, 2018

      How often do you find yourself doing or having to do something you don’t want to do?  For me, there’s a little voice inside saying “I really need to do xyz” or “I should do xyz” or “I wish I didn’t have to do xyz” and within the feeling of the words “need to do” and “should do” and “wish I didn’t have to do” is the energy of resistance and it doesn’t feel good.

      So, how do we create the scenario where when considering those things we have an obligation to do or complete or address, where in the doing and completing and addressing it feels good?

      Two specific things I have practiced to varying degrees over the years and help to create more ease and peace within me and therefore for those around me are these:

      1.  View the resisted thing as something that will be helpful to you or someone else and feel appreciation for it.  It is good because it’s helping you and you’re worth it.. It’s helping someone else and they are worth it.

      2.   Know that that thing was put there/created and co-created by you for a higher purpose.  Yes, even the five loads of laundry or the dirty car that needs cleaning or the mess that needs to be cleaned up…they came into existence for the purpose of moving you along your path.  They are the little markers along the way showing us ourselves by how we feel about them.  When we are in a place of allowing for life to flow without resistance, those things that are placed in front of us we view with allowing.  Being present in the moment we are in, completing the task with gratitude, knowing it is there for us to practice, if nothing else, presence and gratitude and acceptance.

      My daughter, my only child, has gone off to college.  In her absence is also the absence of the things I did to care for her while she was here.  My work load at home is less.  Yay!  But, having it also meant she was here.  Yes, I miss her already! Lol.  Maybe I’ll text her again…;)

      Much love to you today!

       

       

       

      Posted in acceptance, appreciation, how to live in the world, inspiration, instructions for living, kids, kids go to college, law of attraction, life, love, loving, loving ourselves, meditation, relationships, self help, self love, Uncategorized, worthiness | 2 Comments
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