Matters Of Life And Death

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Matters Of Life And Death
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    • Managing Fear

      Posted at 7:37 PM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on July 31, 2020

      Let’s take a look at one scenario. Come up with a specific fear you have. Feel it through, in your body. Notice how your body feels when your mind imagines this hypothetical situation. Does your stomach turn or have butterflies? Does your breathing become a bit faster? Do you feel blood rushing to your head? Does it feel good or not so good?

      What is fear? Let’s unpackage it a bit….

      Fear is not just one thing. Fear is a constellation of multiple dynamic energies all working at once. Some work together, some seemingly alone, but all end up influencing the outcome.

      When we are in a state of fear, not only is our body responding physiologically to the hormones being released in a fight-or-flight response to the autonomic nervous system stimulation from our interpretation of the thoughts we are having in that moment, but once the physiologic response happens it sort of loops back in a type of reflex for more thoughts on the same subject. We almost get carried away on the wings of the thoughts. We loose control.

      How do we get some of that control back? Through focusing our attention on what we want to be rather than what we don’t want to be, i.e. whatever our fear is, we imagine the opposite. Use that creative mind power to envision something better.

      Talk yourself down from it. Remind yourself that you are a powerful creator and can create or uncreate anything you choose to place your focus on. Don’t chastise yourself or be mean to yourself if you have to keep doing it because it will get easier and easier as you go along. It takes a dedication of your energy to continually go back and refocus, but the outcome is so worth it! The outcome of a better feeling, even for just a few moments. The outcome of what you desire to happen rather than what you don’t desire to happen, or maybe something close to it. Try it. You’ll see.

      Tell yourself that all is well, that everything is working out for you and everyone involved. That it’s working out even when others observe it and say the opposite. You can believe differently.

      Write affirmations about whatever subject you are fearful about and put them in your pocket. Pull them out and remind yourself of how powerful you are at creating what you desire to experience rather than what you don’t desire. I put them on my bathroom mirror, in my car, on the fridge, in my scrub pocket. Anywhere you are inspired to where you know you’ll see them and be re-minded of what you desire. This helps so much to refocus the mind and bodies’ energy on what we want.

      If the fear creeps back in, repeat all of the above. Over and over. Until you no longer require it. Have faith until you have experience, then there is no need for faith.

      Much Love!! xoxo

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    • Appreciate the mess

      Posted at 9:33 AM by Krista Gorman, PA-C, on August 26, 2018

      How often do you find yourself doing or having to do something you don’t want to do?  For me, there’s a little voice inside saying “I really need to do xyz” or “I should do xyz” or “I wish I didn’t have to do xyz” and within the feeling of the words “need to do” and “should do” and “wish I didn’t have to do” is the energy of resistance and it doesn’t feel good.

      So, how do we create the scenario where when considering those things we have an obligation to do or complete or address, where in the doing and completing and addressing it feels good?

      Two specific things I have practiced to varying degrees over the years and help to create more ease and peace within me and therefore for those around me are these:

      1.  View the resisted thing as something that will be helpful to you or someone else and feel appreciation for it.  It is good because it’s helping you and you’re worth it.. It’s helping someone else and they are worth it.

      2.   Know that that thing was put there/created and co-created by you for a higher purpose.  Yes, even the five loads of laundry or the dirty car that needs cleaning or the mess that needs to be cleaned up…they came into existence for the purpose of moving you along your path.  They are the little markers along the way showing us ourselves by how we feel about them.  When we are in a place of allowing for life to flow without resistance, those things that are placed in front of us we view with allowing.  Being present in the moment we are in, completing the task with gratitude, knowing it is there for us to practice, if nothing else, presence and gratitude and acceptance.

      My daughter, my only child, has gone off to college.  In her absence is also the absence of the things I did to care for her while she was here.  My work load at home is less.  Yay!  But, having it also meant she was here.  Yes, I miss her already! Lol.  Maybe I’ll text her again…;)

      Much love to you today!

       

       

       

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