Have you ever made a plan, let’s say for the weekend, one that was rock solid and tight and you just couldn’t wait to execute it because it was awesome and you were going to have an amazing time?
Then, it rains or you can’t find your one credit card that you need, or your child gets sick. Better yet, YOU get sick.
The disappointment sets in and throws you for a loop. Everything sucks. The weekend is ruined. You won’t have another weekend off for months and who knows if you can make the same plans again, or if you’d even be able to do it because SOMETHING would probably happen to screw it up…..
The thing is, none of that matters. There are no guarantees in this life. There isn’t a rule book that says we get everything we want in the way we want it.
I didn’t plan to suffer cardiopulmonary arrest and die while in labor with my daughter. For me, the outcome was predictable. I’d deliver my baby and with my husband at my side we’d see her for the first time together.
None of that happened.
And it’s ok.
Life is full of surprises and cool little twists and turns. Some are more pronounced than others, more significant, but they all boil down to the same thing. Unpredictability.
It seems counterintuitive, but if we can settle ourselves into the understanding of there are no guarantees in this life and we only have control over how we think and therefore respond to situations, we’d be a lot happier.
I didn’t get the last donut this morning. My daughter ate it before I got up. It’s ok, because I had a piece of cake instead.
See what I mean?
xoxo
Krista Gorman, PA-C
Matters Of Life And Death 